Sometimes, when I am overwhelmed with pleasure during sex, I bite my partner lightly on his shoulder or jaw. The biting is not an act of violence, nor is it meant to provoke a violent response, yet I have learned to be extremely cautious about it, until I know that the man can and will understand my intention without my having to say it out loud. Words would spoil the magic: I bite from a place of inner Wildness, where I am free to express my full range of emotion and sensation in spontaneous and largely non-verbal ways. I want the biting to be received as the highest praise. I want my man to want more of it. That doesn’t mean I want him to debase himself to get it, only that I want my satisfaction to be paramount in his mind.
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